Category Archives: English

Tribal Leadership

“Tribal Leadership” by Dave Logan, John King, and Halee Fischer-Wright is a book which explores where people and organizations are in their thinking, or even in their worldview.   It is a very interesting book with many interesting stories. It also explains how to move up the chart so to speak (as well as how people and groups may move down).

Here are two explanatory graphs:

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Love – Just a Thought

What Is Your Love Language?

In the last post, I highlighted the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. While the book aims at married couples, the principles apply to all relationships. All of us have love tanks that need to be filled and refilled. Gary Chapman has a series of books in The 5 Love Languages series: For Children (highly recommended, For Teenagers, For Men, For Singles. These books are easy to read but highly impactful – I would say life changing.

A word of caution, start with yourself (speaking from personal experience here). It is very easy to see people in our lives who these books might “fix”. It is funny, that whenever I take the time to work on myself everyone in my life seem to magically get better.

How do I find out what my love language is?

Gary Chapman has a couple of very helpful sections at the back of the book, one of which is a question and answer section. Here is an excerpt:

1. What if I cannot discover my primary love languages?

“First observe how you most often express love to others. If you are regularly doing acts of service for others, this may be your love language. If you are consistently, verbally affirming people, the Words of Affirmation is likely your love language.

What do you complain about most often? When you say to your spouse, ‘I don’t think you would ever touch me if I did not initiate it,’ you are revealing that Physical Touch is your love language. When your spouse goes on a business trip and you say, ‘You didn’t bring me anything?’ you are indicating that Receiving Gifts is your language. The statement, ‘We don’t ever spend time together,’ indicates the love language of Quality Time. Your complaints reveal your inner desires. (If you have trouble remembering what you complain about most often, I suggest that you ask your spouse. Chances are that they will know.)

What do you request of your spouse most often? If you are saying ‘Will you give me a back rub?’ you are asking for Physical Touch. ‘Do you think that we could get a weekend away this month?’ is a request for Quality time. ‘Would it be possible for you to mow the grass this afternoon?’ expresses your desire for Acts of Service. (Your answer to these three questions will likely reveal your primary love language.)

For more information check out the website:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Always appreciate your thoughts and comments.

What’s Love Got To Do With It? – Everything!

We started Romeo and Juliet last week with the Grade 9 + 10 English class. Mme Julie did a great job initiating a discussion about love and relationships. Some of you parents may have been asked the question: “Describe your idea of the ideal mate for me (your son or daughter).” It was also interesting to listen to the students share their ideas the qualities and traits of their ideal match. For this we separated the boys from the girls – quite interesting results.

What is the importance of the key relationships in our lives? How do you even assign a value to it? Imagine the value of information that would help in the area of relationships?

I truly believe that there are some books that can change a person’s life. One of these books is “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. In the book, he explains the 5 languages of love and how different people have different love languages – just like personalities. He explains: “Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse (significant other) may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse only understands Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.”

The 5 Love Languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Quality Time

3. Receiving Gifts

4. Acts of Service

5. Physical Touch

Here is a short video that illustrates the love languages:

The book is well worth the read!

Student Blog – Ector’s Blog

Violence

Do you think there is more violence now than there was in the 1930s? Why?

So in my blog post this is the question I wanted to ask. As I was reading the book Of Mice and Men, I noticed all the violence:

“If he coulda used his feet, Smitty says he woulda killed the nigger.”  “This Curley punk is gonna get hurt if he messes around with Lennie.” “Don’t let him sock me, George.”  “A shot sounded in the distance.  The men looked quickly at the old man.”  “He slashed at Lennie with his left, and then smashed down his nose with a right.”  “She struggled violently under his hands.”  “The crash of the shot rolled up the hills and rolled down again.  Lennie jarred, and then settled slowly forward to the sand, and he lay without quivering.”  These quotes from the book show violence in different forms.  It is obvious that there was a great deal of violence back then.

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We (M. Bouchard and I) asked a number of people for the opinion on that question. My favorite response was the following: “Unfortunately I believe there is more violence in our present day society. Back then it was more targeted toward race as an example, or at least between people who knew each other. Today we see so much random violence ie: Sandy Hook Elementary, movie theater shooting, decapitation on a bus etc. Today’s media along with help from many violent video games (not to mention drugs) seem to be desensitizing society to the point that people have much less respect for human life. How many tv programs are about crime or serial killers? And how many are being copycated in the real world? I believe another factor is the steady removal of God from people’s lives. If people believe there is nothing to live for after we die, what does it matter how they live this life or who they hurt to get what they want.” (Thanks to everyone who gave responses).

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So what do you think? And why?

Student Blog – Bedivere Post

Don’t count your Chickens before they hatch!!

                  Don’t get your hopes up for something that could change so easily. Because it leaves you with a lot of emotions and you’re all angry because you worked so hard for it, then all of a sudden something comes up and interferes with what you wanted. Whether it’s a dream or just going somewhere. Life is a jackass and most of the time it will do anything to ruin your plans. Life hates you. But just because it hates you doesn’t mean you should give up. I’m not saying stop hoping, stop wishing, stop praying or stop working hard to get there. If anything wish a whole lot more, pray a whole lot more and hope a whole lot more, and defiantly don’t stop working. Just know that you shouldn’t get too attached, so that way if life wants to be a jackass and ruin your plan, you won’t feel too bad. I want you to always know that anything can happen whether it’s bad or good, anything can happen. But you just have to get up and work for it again. Hopefully not as much as you did the first time, but just enough to make it happen.

Hi… I have dealt with this problem too many times to count. And yes it’s a pain in the ass when my plans don’t work out. But I don’t care anymore because I know life will be a jackass and most likely ruin it for me. But when life is a Jackass to me, I get back up and start working. Yes I may be mad and frustrated most of the time, but I still do it. Because I have a big imagination and I have big dreams and hard plans to complete. When I have something I want to do or somewhere I want to go. I work so hard to get there. I always get my hopes up, unfortunately too high up, and I get excited. But I still know that life can still be a jackass and ruin it. And if it does, well life can go to hell. Like the last weekend of spring break I’m supposed to go see a friend who lives 1 hour and 30 minutes away from me. I have to work all spring break to raise the money for gas. But I have been screwed so many times by life that I’m actually scared I won’t be able to. And still i work and hope anyway. Why? Because every time you do hope for something and it fails. And you restart. You get farther every time.

In the book Of Mice and Men, George and Lennie have a dream about having their own ranch. They had their hopes up so high especially after Candy offered to help them buy it and complete their dream it was unbelievable. They were so convinced that they could make it. But life had to be a jackass and ruin it for them. It’s not Lennie’s fault, its life’s fault. Only Lennie can say that it was his fault.

So keep believing, keep hoping and work hard. If you fail, get back up and do it again. And remember Life is a JACKASS!!!!

-Bedivere

Student Blog – Merlin’s Post

Stay Strong!

Loneliness. It affects everyone, both directly and indirectly. Loneliness in terms of missing someone, feeling cut off from everyone or just plain being alone. Loneliness is not a huge theme in ‘Of Mice And Men’, but it is a theme that needs attention. We all suffer from it, some of us more than others. Sometimes, it depends on race or religion, other times, prejudices and cruelty.  Leaving someone out, because they`re black, like Crooks. Not talking to someone much, because they’re old and dubbed senile, like Candy. Excommunicating someone because of a difference in religion or beliefs. All of this leads to the person in question being left with a feeling: loneliness. In a way, being alone can make the sentiment become your best friend. Like in my case.

From a very young age, I was outcast for my differences. I was overweight, and dubbed ‘too smart to have friends’. So no one played with me on the playground. No one wanted to come to my house, and no one invited me to theirs. I never went to any birthday parties, and few people came to mine. I only had one good friend, Jeremy. We met in kindergarten, and have been nearly inseparable since. His consistent friendship made up for the lack of people in my life. But when I moved from my home in Saskatchewan to British Columbia, all of that changed.

I lost touch with Jeremy. It crushed me. I still remember crying and staring out the window at him as we drove away. I was only 8 then. Once we moved, I became so depressed, that I cut myself off from the world. I refused friendships. I didn’t go outside unless I had to go to school. I sank myself into my schoolwork and ignored the rest of the world. I found Jeremy on Facebook when I was 11, but by then, the damage had already been done.

By the time I was 13, I was cutting myself. I cut to release the emotional pain within through a slit in my wrist. When the blood oozed, all the feelings of sadness and depression seeped out along with it. It made me feel better. I dyed my hair black and wore black clothing to show the world my pain. I felt that if my pain was shown on the outside of me, it would stop eating at me inside. I was wrong. It only got worse.

I felt like this quote from ‘Of Mice And Men’: “I ain’t got no people. I seen the guys that go around on the ranches alone. That ain’t no good. They don’t have no fun. After a long time they get mean. They get wantin’ to fight all the time. . .’’

Nowadays, I have more friends. I have more communication with the outside world. People and music helped drag me out of the pit that is loneliness. So, in conclusion, people suffer from loneliness, but it’s also people that help us through it.

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This song helps me through my times of loneliness (really listen to the lyrics)

The caption is ‘Loneliness. If you find yourself struggling with loneliness, you’re not alone. And yet you are alone. So very alone.’ loneliness After listening to the song, I feel like this: loneliness2

-Merlin